Ten Things a faggot Needs From a Dominant…
- Structure & Routine
- Honesty and Trust
- Proper Nutrition & Rest
- Humiliation & Degradation
- Chores & Responsibilities
- Goals and Special Projects
- Hard Use and Abuse
- Assurances (A Second Chance)
Thanks again to fistfuckgaygr for providing valuable insight into a few things a Dominant needs from His submissive creatures. After reading fistfuckgaygr’s blog posting, this faggot thought it might be a good idea to compose a similar posting from a faggot’s perspective – this faggot’s perspective anyway. And while BDSM activities are inherently grounded in a deep, dark sexual nature, this faggot also realizes there is much more to being a Man’s slave than simply serving Him sexually. It is attempting to remember that important construct as it scribes this post. Although parts of this writing do resemble sexual content, this posting was composed in a concerted effort and with the express intention to increase its quality of service to the Master.
As a noun, RULES are “a set of explicit or understood regulations or principles governing conduct”. As a verb, the Master RULES His faggot when He “exercises ultimate power or authority” over that property. Rules should be clear and understood by both parties. Rules not only define the expected actions of the sub, but they also serve to define the parameters of the relationship between a Dominant and His slave. It is an important dynamic for the faggot to be given clear and distinct rules which it is then expected to abide by and those rules should always lend themselves to making the Master’s life better.
Examples of rules may include:
- Following proper protocol when addressing a Superior
- Knowing when it may or may not speak freely
- Responding immediately to orders and commands
- Being home and completely available to Him (aside from work responsibilities)
- Having to ask permission for anything/everything beyond its normal pre-defined routine
Without rules, faggots run amuck and gain ego, losing focus on what’s important to both parties. And that is having the Master in charge – in total Control of the faggot. This quite simply, is what they both want. So, the Dominant should always feel comfortable and secure in making Rules for the faggot to follow. And likewise, the faggot should accept each new rule with a sense of gratitude for a Man who is willing to provide firm control and structure to its life. The more rules imposed upon the faggot, the better opportunity it has to improve the life of its Master.
Structure and Routine –
As rules provide the framework for expected behaviors, structure is what gives those rules meaning. Structure is the organizational foundation on which a rich and dynamic relationship is built. And without structure, a faggot is likely to wander aimlessly throughout the relationship never quite addressing the Master’s needs in an efficient and effective manner that enhances the quality of His life. Routine is the use of structure to develop patterns of (in) behavior that further guide the faggot’s daily actions. Routine equips the faggot with the knowledge and skill set needed to accomplish tasks at various intervals with a consistent degree of quality. It’s important for the faggot to know what is expected of it and what its daily responsibilities are – structure and routine help the faggot learn the Master’s expectations and the parameters of its responsibilities in the relationship. Routine (and structure alike) both provide the faggot with ample opportunity to study and learn from the Master and to carefully discern His likes and dislikes and sub-sequently respond appropriately to His daily needs and desires.
Examples of structured routine might include:
- Properly greeting the Master upon (either of T/them) entering a room
- Maintaining a clean and orderly household for the Master – without being instructed
- Preparing His morning coffee or other meals as He prefers them – without being instructed
- Sitting in a particular spot when not directly serving the Master’s needs or desires
- Waking up, addressing the Master’s day, going to work, returning home, addressing the Master’s evening, addressing the Master’s night, sleeping, wake up again…
For every action… there need not be an equal and opposite reaction. However, there are (and will be) times when the faggot’s action(s) require some degree of corrective measure. When the faggot fails to follow the rules set forth by the Master, or when the faggot lacks structure and routine, this could result in the faggot falling short of its true potential. It would therefore necessitate the firm hand of the Master to set the faggot back on the right track. It may be something as simple as the Master looking down at it and saying “Excuse ME…?” Or it may be something requiring a more sub-stantial reinforcement of the structure and agreed upon rules. Such as putting the faggot in a particular physical and mental state where it can ponder its actions and why those actions were not appropriate. Or – it might even be something that requires a more strict and rigid punishment in order to curb in-sub-ordinate behavior. “Spare the rod, spoil the child.”
A lack of discipline contributes to laziness which in turn leads to a lesser quality of service provided to the Master. Even good boys need spankings sometimes to help them remember (a) Who is in Charge and (b) what the faggot’s role and purpose truly is in this relationship. And while every act may not require correction, there should be a well thought out Program of Discipline that the Master imposes upon His property. Perhaps a point system where each violation incurs a certain number of points and when the faggot “earns a certain number of points” it is disciplined appropriately. Other times – the faggot’s actions may require a more immediate response, based on a multi-tier level of punishment depending upon the severity of the infraction.
Examples: Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3 Infractions may include (or exceed):
- Level 1 – An attention commanding smack across the face…
- Level 2 – An unexpected and surprisingly powerful punch to the gut followed by some corner time for the faggot to reflect upon its indiscretion
- Level 3 – Binding the faggot and subjecting it to a more intense, rigorous and long-term beating coupled with repeated affirmations of what it did wrong and why it was wrong and what it will do in the future to improve its quality of service to and for the Master
Whichever level of consequence the Master feels is best suited for the faggot at the time of infraction and that will bring about the best positive outcome – He will decide. And the faggot knows that He employs punishment and other consequences only to help it become a better faggot for Him and to help it make His life better. The ultimate goal of both Master and slave.
Honesty and Trust –
Honesty and trust are the guiding principles that give the previous three constructs validity. Much like fistfuckgaygr explained in the original post, trust is not earned overnight. It requires complete and open communication, takes a long time to build and it is most definitely a two-way street. When it was younger (like a teenager) and worried about getting into trouble, the faggot would sometimes conjure up some mistruths in the hopes it could avoid receiving a punishment. It soon realized that telling one lie would lead to another and eventually it couldn’t remember any of its stories. So many years ago, the faggot realized it was simply easier to always tell the truth – no matter what. And it continues to practice that policy today. As a faggot who, over the past several months, has been diligently “working to demonstrate its value and dedication and commitment to the Master in the hope that HE will decide to take ownership of it” the faggot has never shared a mistruth with the Master. Ever. Furthermore, if the Master is really in charge – He also has no need to lie. About anything. Ever.
Trust is absolutely critical in a BDSM situation. In another similar posting by fistfuckgaygr on what it means to be a slave, this faggot agrees that “Even a simple “white lie” can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish [and maintain] this type of relationship”. This sense of complete and utter trust is even more critical when the Master wishes to subject His object to various forms of extreme acts of depravity. Even after months or years of developing a strong sense of trust, one lie or mistruth can cause significant and unfortunate results. Therefore, even “little white lies” are totally unacceptable.
Proper Nutrition and Rest –
In order to fully serve the Master, the faggot should be fairly well nourished and should acquire a fair amount of sleep. This is not for the comfort of the faggot as much as it is to ensure quality service is delivered to the Master. You see, when a faggot gets overly hungry its blood sugar may drop. And before it realizes it, the faggot has become somewhat of a cranky bitch. Same principle applies for rest. While everybody likes to sleep, especially on the weekends, a faggot (only) needs a fair amount of sleep in order to provide a level of high quality service to the Master. If the faggot is deprived of sleep (which by the way – is within the rights of the Master) then it again may become somewhat cranky and as a result, the quality of service and its usefulness is therefore diminished. It’s really just about finding a balance between acceptable levels of deprivation and the quality of services required by the Master.
Humiliation & Degradation
When it comes to subjecting the faggot to humiliation, much of that is conjured up during sexual games. However, the Master should know that in addition to the Dominant fix He gets by humiliating a faggot, the faggot also internalizes much of that action beyond sexual means and accepts that type of treatment as part of the BDSM relationship. In doing so, the faggot realizes, recognizes and accepts its position within this dynamic and it is because of the humiliating acts that the faggot learns to become submissive and to remain in a subservient position in relation to the Master. There are many forms of effective humiliation including verbal, sexual, physical, psychological and emotional humiliation. Any of these types of humiliation can be employed at any time the Master feels like He needs to put the faggot back down in its place. Faggots realize they innately respond with Respect for the Master when this occurs.
The Master once asked, “I wonder what is the most depraved thing I can do to you…” Like humiliation, degrading a faggot, whether during sexual acts or other times, helps to put it in its rightful place below the Master. In fact, humiliation and degradation oftentimes go hand-in-hand. Forcing a faggot to engage in degrading acts (for the Master’s entertainment let’s say) can bring about a significant amount of humiliation upon the faggot. These two constructs working together are highly effective in pushing the faggot to the depths of its own level of submission and free it to become a slave that follows orders and meets the Master’s expectations with increasing levels of quality.
Chores & Responsibilities –
Faggots need to be kept busy when not engaged in direct service of the Master. This is important for a couple of reasons. First, it keeps the faggot out of trouble by not giving it the opportunity to run amuck. Also, and more importantly, it provides the Master with on-going indirect service that helps to make His life easier. By taking care of errands, washing the dishes, doing the laundry, grocery shopping (with proper permission to leave the house) maintaining a clean house, tending to other animals in the dwelling, etc., the faggot performs services for the Master much as a maid or personal assistant might provide. The key difference is that the Master doesn’t have to pay someone else to complete these services. He owns the faggot and so He simply orders the faggot to take care of these tasks and the faggot does it. The faggot views this kind of work as meaningful tasks that allow the Master to focus on other more important activities. Activities which make Him happy. And isn’t that what this is all about anyway?
Goals and Special Projects
In addition to routine chores and other responsibilities, faggots should constantly be working on a set of clearly defined goals as well as being assigned any special projects to work on during their spare time. This sub-sequently provides the Master with additional pleasure or leisure time since He has passed the assigned task off to His property. Goals might be physical or intellectual in nature. Things like making the faggot workout in order to tone its belly so it can therefore accept more direct and high impact abuse when the Master wishes to use it as His personal punching bag. Goals might also include planning a trip for the Master (and slave) and being diligent in its work to ensure the journey will be both relaxing and enjoyable for Him. Of course, finding new and exciting ways to honor and show Him respect is always a goal the faggot should be working on accomplishing. Special projects might involve work around the house, preparing for a special event, conducting research on specialized equipment, tools and toys for the Master’s use and entertainment, taking care of any out-of-the-ordinary tasks to help make the Master’s life better and more enjoyable, etc. The length of time spent on special projects can vary depending upon the nature of the assignment as well as the depth to which the Master requires the slave’s services.
Hard Use and Abuse
It goes without saying that the faggot was born to serve a Man who captures it and to serve Him in all ways that suit His needs and desires. And of course, that includes being the object of His desire – in other words – what that really means is the faggot is the subject of His abuse. Whether engaged in a fun Saturday afternoon of sexual deviance or if the faggot simply opens its mouth one too many times when the Master is seeking some quiet solitude, He holds unmitigated Rights to treat the faggot as nicely or as sadistically as He enjoys at any given moment. While the faggot may beg and plead for mercy – and it may even cry out in pain (simply gag it), the faggot requires this significant level of abuse in order to frequently remind it of its true place in the hierarchy of nature. It is there to serve. Of course, on the flip side of things, the Master could also decide He wants the faggot around simply to provide Him with meaningful companionship – much like a pet – while allowing Him to continue His regular activities.
Assurances (A Second Chance)
Even with the best laid out Rules and forms of structure, all faggots fuck-up. And as a result, all faggots require appropriate punishment and abuse when they do. And as indicated above, that abuse should be MEANingful. So, MEANingful that the faggot learns something from each lesson. And therefore it works harder and with more focus to please the Master and satisfy His needs and desires. This is a very simple, but complex concept and after a good beating, the faggot should know in its heart that it was beaten because the Master cares for it and He wants it to be the very best faggot it can be. Period. And while the faggot will always strive to do the best job it can, eventually something will occur that the faggot does (or does not do) that is considered a major infraction. It may be so out of the norm for the faggot, that even the Master is surprised and has temporary fleeting thoughts of discarding the piece of property. Please, please, please always give the faggot a second chance to demonstrate its adoration, commitment and dedication for the Master. And if the faggot has been beaten down to a point where it appears mopey, etc., just give it a bit of time to rebound. Having a temporary mopey attitude is not a sign that the faggot dislikes its place in the relationship. It simply the faggot’s processing of (a) what it did wrong, (b) how disappointed it is in itself and © how it wants to do better for the Master. Every thought it has – be it good or bad, is always centered on the Master and what makes Him happy.
Opportunity to Worship Him and Honor Him on its own accord
Finally, the faggot is in this relationship because it absolutely adores this Man. It looks up to Him naturally and with such a high degree of Respect and gratitude for what He has done and for what He will do in the future. It sometimes may feel the need (or innate faggot desire) to show homage to the Master –even before being ordered to Worship Him. It is not the faggot’s sexual desire that is the driving motivation steering it to begin touching, rubbing, smelling, kissing or licking or sucking on the Master. But rather, it is a method the faggot recognizes as a sign of admiration for the Master. And it sometimes wishes to show that display of affection for Him without being told. (Unless of course, it goes against the RULES , then see the CONSEQUENCES section of this posting.) Obviously, the faggot is learning there are also many other ways in which it can show the Master honor, respect and worship. And it is working on improving the quality of service in which it demonstrates those characteristics, attitudes, thoughts and feelings. And while the faggot has attempted to write this blog posting from a place not centered in sexual activity, it realizes much of this narrative still emerges from sexually based underpinnings. It recognizes, realizes, and accepts the fact that it still has a great deal to learn and it is so incredibly appreciative that it has someONE to train it properly. And it looks forward to a life-long career of serving this Man.