so my best friend fucked me. It was a huge mistake because I really valued our friendship and I knew sex would ruin it. it’s been a week now and the dynamic is off. He’s acting strangely and I feel awkward in his presence. last night he texted me wanting head but I said no. can anything be done to save our friendship? maybe not hanging out for a while will help matters? what do you think? 

I have always said that you shouldn’t get into a service-oriented situation with a friend unless you’re willing to lose the friendship. Why? Because the Alpha will lose important and necessary respect for the bottom he used sexually, and the dynamic drastically changes with sex now involved. The Alpha doesn’t know what to do with this male friend he has fucked; he doesn’t want to date a male, but with sex involved the friendship is no longer traditional. 

It’s also important to remember that Men compartmentalize their lives effectively. They are like kids that don’t want food items in a meal to touch on a plate. Having a friend that he also fucks mixes too many compartments in his mind, and that becomes an issue emotionally for him.

I think you’ll need to forget about the friendship and accept the new reality: you are his faggot, his cumdump. He’s already demonstrating this new role to you by contacting you for head. He’s not going to want to go fishing or to a ballgame with you anymore, unless it might mean that he receives sexual release. 

You probably feel a sense of loss because of this new reality, but you don’t need to worry about that. Being his faggot is a very special commission, too. Dive headfirst into this new reality, and become the best fag whore possible for him. 

And next time remember this lesson.

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Hello Sammy! love the blog and podcast! I am 31 and trying desperately to stop wanting to touch my dick and embrace my pussy as my sexual organ. I dream of being a good sub chastity bottom but I can’t stop masturbating when I’m horny. How do I train my brain to stop going straight to my dick? I use a dildo often and realize that my whole body feels complete, but I can never orgasm with the dildo by itself, I always start touching my dick. I feel shame after, I’m embarrassed that I allowed myself to do it. Any help you can provide for me to realistically become a good bottom is appreciated!  thank you!

I can’t speak for everybody, but in my case the biggest change occurred within my heart and headlong before chastity. First of all, I was trained by a couple of Alphas early in my life to keep my hands away from my clit while serving. Mind you, that was never much of a problem even back then (I just never was as interested in my clit as I was in their dicks).
But maybe four years ago I began to really develop a deep shame no only whenever I touched my clit sexually (in masturbation, for example), but also whenever I would pee standing up like a Man or even sitting in a chair like a Man. It was this growing ache of shame inside me, and every day I carried it in me like a scarlet letter on my heart.

Then I met Master Jin and Master Nick, then Sir Rob and Master Kyle. These Apex Alphas are such extraordinary examples of true Manhood in all respects, and their absolute power finally broke down my resistance. I was finally moved to act to make the statement of permanent chastity in my life.

So that’s my journey. You will need to find your own motivators. But ultimately you’ll need to become disgusted enough with the practice of masturbation to permanently put it away. It’s like a smoker trying to quit smoking. The ones who successfully stop smoking put the cigarettes down and say to themselves, “that’s disgusting, and I don’t want them anymore.” You need to reach that kind of conclusion about masturbation.

Trust me. The peace and serenity of honoring Men with your abstinence is much better than the momentary pleasure of masturbation.

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Thanks Sam 
 
Hoping my questions will help others as well. 

1) I have no interest in domestic service or chaos or but I’m willing to let my mouth be used. Am I still a faggot ? 
 
2) you are right. You can run – but if you get hard sucking alpha cock on demand – it will never go away – I know even being straight I will always be called on to suck cock 

There are faggots who generally don’t serve domestically. However, I do think that domestic service is just as exciting and fulfilling as any other form of service. You are missing out on an opportunity for growth by skipping this.

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