Sir Max is an Alpha writer who regularly contributes to sadosam.com and is a frequent commentator here. CLICK HERE for any of his related content in chronological order!
The Nashville dungeon has released a book of vignettes “Hot Flashes” fundraising for their benevolent fund. About a quarter in the book are by me. You can read more of my flash fiction at https://sadosam.com/maxpotter/
This is a charity anthology. A portion of the sales of Hot Flashes will go to aid the CPI Benevolence Fund. CPI is the group that runs The Mark, the dungeon space and community center in Nashville (http://themarkbycpi.org/). The CPI Benevolence Fund is used to support members of the Nashville/Middle Tennessee kink community during times of hardship or crisis by temporarily assisting them with their basic needs.
Sir Max is an Alpha writer who regularly contributes to sadosam.com and is a frequent commentator here. CLICK HERE for any of his related content in chronological order!
One of the great Alpha presences on this site over the years has been the calm, steady voice of Sir Max. Unlike many of the Alpha featured here, Sir Max is a writer and a deep thinker on Hierarchical issues. I consider him to be a mentor and guide as I plumb the depths of Hierarchical theory, especially as it relates to Alphahood (with which I have little experience aside from serving it).
Sir Max, inspired by a recent questions from readers (CLICK HERE), was moved to clarify a few things about how faggots might know whether or not an Alpha might be willing to take them. This is a critical issue that many faggots struggle to understand. The following is his piece unedited:
Faggots are often baffled by Alphas who do not treat them like the fags they are. You want to get on your knees and kiss his feet, and he treats you like he treats everyone else. If he would just take command of you like he deserves, the world would be better.
So why won’t he?
An Alpha won’t treat you like a fag for three reasons: 1) He doesn’t realize you are a fag, 2) He has determined you are not ready to accept being treated like a fag, 3) He has determined you are not ready to be treated like a fag.
Alphas can tell when someone is a fag, but that skill is not always exercised. If the Alpha has used, or currently uses fags, he will be more likely to zero in on you. Not all Alphas are constantly looking for fags, so you may have to take steps so he will see your offer. If you do not present as an obvious fag, you may be good enough at hiding that the Alpha needs more signals to notice Regardless of why your faggotry may not be how he thinks of you. So he will treat you like he does anyone else.
Another reason is he may not think you are ready to accept being treated like a fag. He may think you are owned and your owner does not share. The man may think you haven’t realized your true place. He might want to guide you to submission. There are many reasons why a man may not choose to use you. Perhaps he’s waiting for you to show signs of submission to him. . As a fag, it is your job to offer and put yourself in situations where the Alpha can take control. Let the Alpha know you are willing so he does not waste the energy evaluating your potential.
It may seem confusing, but it is the Alpha’s choice how he acts. It is your responsibility, as the fag, to offer your services. This can be a wide range of unrequested duties; from fetching his coffee to completing hard manual labor for him. During these times, the Alpha might thank you, repay you, or otherwise treat you like someone of his own level. That is the Alpha conforming to the general social norms, and you will especially see this in a work environment. Keep your goals and his wishes in mind.
Continue to serve the Alpha, let him act as he chooses. Tell him “thank you” is not necessary. . Follow his lead, and make whatever efforts you can to improve his situation. Keep in mind, these efforts don’t always have to be something he sees either. Volunteer for a bad shift so he can go out, roll his trash down to the curb.
If an Alpha treats you like everyone else, that is his choice. Accept and respect his wishes. However, let the Alpha know of your faggotry in whatever ways you can.
These are some critical points to keep in mind. I have definitely been guilty of ignoring some of these tips from time to time.
First and foremost, we must remember that Alphas are on a voyage of discovery of a similar-yet-different type as faggots. They are discovering Alphahood and the power it grants them as faggots are discovering that their place is on their knees. We can’t expect every Alpha we meet to be in the same place we are Hierarchically. Each one of us discovers it and embraces it in different ways and at different times.
The best thing we can do is what Sir Max suggests here – groom ourselves and prepare to be useful to Men. The rest of the process Nature will work out in due time.
I understand the frustrations of many faggots out there. You desperately want to serve Alphas but you have two problems:
1. You’re to afraid to approach Alphas in real life.
2. You aren’t wealthy.
Seemingly without an avenue available to serve, you shrink back and resign yourself to unrealized dreams.
But it doesn’t need to be this way! Silent service could be a way to find fulfillment!
The great Alpha Max Potter, inspired by a post here, crafted a marvelous article on this subject with the help of a faggot named Chad.
Read on:
A fag is to serve. However, as a fag you might not have been able to find an Alpha for your devotion. This leaves you at a loss. But the world is full of men who deserve service. As a fag you should keep your eyes open for opportunities to serve silently, discreetly, even unnoticed.
“Silent Service” is the service a fag performs to better the life of any Alpha, of all Alphas without even trying to draw attention. It could be something as simple as one of the duties Chad does, emptying the trash at the gym owned by an Alpha. It is a service that is never asked for but makes the Alpha gym-owner’s life easier. Chad started this shortly after beginning to attend the gym and receiving personal training from this fit Alpha. Chad was driven by a desire for a service he could perform and began with the trash. Chad is comfortable with his place in the hierarchy and what he does is in full view of everyone. It is irrelevant if the Alpha knows that he has received service. What matters is that he has received service.
Service to an Alpha is not about you, the fag. It is not about getting credit or notice. The fag’s reward is the fact an Alpha’s life has been made easier or better. Chad makes sure certain co-workers with very intensive duties have everything they need or want, You can do the same thing. What Alphas are around you? What can you do to make things even a little bit better? Can you take on a late shift so he can enjoy his evening? Cover for him if he takes a longer lunch? Tidy up the locker room?
Some Alphas will notice, no matter how subtle you are. He will notice his sidewalk has been swept. The Alpha might never mention the service. Instead, he might choose to subtly give you more tasks. Let’s say you roll his trash to the curb for pick-up. Recyclables might then appear that need to be sorted and taken with the trash for pick-up. Do it. Or, perhaps the Alpha will indeed acknowledge what you are doing for him. What you do for the Alpha is more important than whether or not it leads you to his dick. If the Alpha chooses to let you at his dick, the Fag should be extra grateful to have done the work and gotten the opportunity to provide this additional service.
Chad describes this as a “dance”, the fag serves the Alpha while the Alpha accepts and acknowledges the service but possibly without coming out and saying it outright. Telling the fag the Alpha is happy to see him, saying “you spoil me”, or anything like that is a vanilla way of saying “Good Boy”. Listen for these clues hinting that the Alpha likes the attention.
Let us take a model conversation to see how a fag can respond and open the door for more service:
Alpha: “Oh hey, thanks for taking my trash down.”
Fag: “Happy to help out Sir, took mine at the same time. I notice your lawn needs raking. I’ve always found raking relaxing. I can let my mind wander. May I do yours once I finish mine?”
Let’s break down that exchange a bit. The Alpha give a casual thanks to the fag. Being thanked is common in regular society, and the Alpha is using that. He also implies it was a simple task because it is not unexpected that one neighbor would do that for another. The Alpha has acted in a way that is polite to a non-fag neighbor. This is your opportunity to show that you are ready to do more.
The fag’s response in this example does a number of things. First, the fag starts out expressing his joy at serving, using the everyday phrase, “Happy to help”. “Sir” is included to indicate that the fag is adopting a subservient position. Let the Alpha know you know he is an Alpha. Next, the fag points out another service he could perform. This service (‘raking the yard’) is obvious to anyone, even those who have not been keenly observing the Alpha as the fag has been.
The fag must offer to perform the service in a subtle way that makes the Alpha’s potential relationship to the fag inconspicuous to society. Until an Alpha/fag relationship is established, an Alpha will often treat offers of service from a fag like he would a vanilla person. Part of a fag’s job is to make it easier on the Alpha to accept service in a comfortable, easy way. Here, the fag treats raking the Alpha’s yard as a favor to the fag, which it is.
You want to seduce the Alpha to accept your service. Later, he may decide to use you for other things, but at the start you want to serve him. It is his choice what he wants to have you do for him, and it is your job to make yourself available no matter what that happens to be.
Fags must perform all services to a very high standard. The fag should prioritize the service to the new Alpha to show his enthusiasm. Having done any task, the fag has proven his willingness to serve and can request (or be assigned) more tasks. The initial Silent Service can lead to much more. The better a job you do for the Alpha, the more likely he’ll have you do more.
One thing to look out for when you offer service are the surroundings. Not all fags can be as forward as site-host Sam. If you work with an Alpha, where assisting or taking on duties is acceptable, offering sexual service in or out of the workplace could be a problem with HR. Offer services that are appropriate for the setting. Don’t put on a show (“Girl, can I get you coke?”) Look for the best time for the Alpha to receive your offer, and what you have to offer. A blow job offered in front of his buddies is not the way to go, but offering to put up weights after he does a heavy set is.
Service is very fulfilling. If you do not have an Alpha to service, you can service all Alphas by doing things for all of them. Choose your service wisely, do not look to be noticed, and when you have the opportunity to offer more, do it in a way that is most pleasing and convenient for the Alpha. It’s all about the Alpha, every bit of it. Do it for all the Alphas.
How encouraging is that?
It’s so easy for faggots to become discouraged or downhearted when they hear crazy success stories of other faggots, or read comments like this braggadocios one left on this site in the last day from a wealthy faggot:
Yup. I am a very wealthy, successful fag. This is one reason the whole “you’re worthless” thing that some second-rate doms say rings false to me. I’m not worthless. I contribute a hell of a lot to society: I’m pretty sure that, without my work, my community would be a much sadder place. Which makes it all the more meaningful when I get on my knees and serve an alpha male. What kind of tribute is it, to have a worthless piece of crap serve you? None at all. What kind of tribute is it to have a well-respected and successful man serve you? A big one! So I work to be successful in my career and valuable to my community so I can also be meaningfully submissive to alpha males. Service isn’t just sucking dicks and doing laundry.
This faggot (who doesn’t support this site, BTW) doesn’t get the true meaning of service. It uses the term “meaningfully submissive” as a classist term in order to set its extravagant form of service above the service of poorer faggots.
I tell you that a faggot who serves silently simply for the joy of being useful to Alphas is richer in spirit and more fully embodies the spirit of Hierarchy!
So seek out simple ways to improve the lives of superior Men every day! Even if he doesn’t acknowledge the act, the knowledge that you contributed will fill your heart with purpose!
This article by Sir Max Potter was inspired by his response in the comments section (CLICK HERE).
Not all Alphas want to ruin the lives of their Fags. Owning a Fag comes with a lot of responsibility. Where Alphas may make it tough on the Fag, wise Alphas will assure the Fag can continue to serve.
A Fag may have a spouse, job, bank account. If the Alpha costs the Fag these, it may break the Fag so severly as to no longer be abe to proivde the service the Alpha deserves. A Fag’s spouse may see like a distraction, but for a Fag in a happy marriage, the Alpha breaking it up will send the Fag into a tailspring of depression, so service could be discontinued or at least dispirited. The same is true for forcing the Fag to quit (or to lose) his job. If he’s been providing money, that ends. How will he live or have a cell phone to be summoned? Will the Alpha move the Fag into this house?
A wise Alpha will not destroy a Fags life, but assures the Fag is not distracted by those problems and can focus on the Alpha. Some of the articles on this site describe Alphas bring in Fags to live with them, or be sure they finish school. By managing the Fag, the Alpha gets a better servant. A servant more dedicated to the Alpha.
Some Alphas do disregard the life state of their Fags, and by doing so the Fag may feel compleled to withdraw service, or be made unable to serve. Burning through Fags means you have to constantly train new ones in your preferences.
Alphas who want a talented Fag devoted to him will assist the Fag, even if that is limited to not interfering. Guiding the Fag in staying loyal to marriages, working hard at their job, means the Fag will be on call and ready for years, providing more and more unquestioned service and more tailored to the Alpha’s preferences.
For an Alpha, providing good guidance is an inborn ability. For a Fag, following such good advice is a gold mine.
Sir Max is an Alpha writer who regularly contributes to sadosam.com and is a frequent commentator here. CLICK HERE for any of his related content in chronological order!
The other day I received a tricky question (CLICK HERE) from a faggot who wanted to know if they had to service Alphas they don’t find attractive. I get this question every so often, and I fumble with it every time like it’s a hot rock. Why? Because the prevailing answer in the faggot community is that a faggot must serve all Alphas – even the unattractive ones – but I know I have turned down some gross Alphas in the past.
Thankfully we have an Alpha voice on the matter to consult. Sir Max saw the question and was inspired to write his answer:
An Alpha is not just a Master of Fags, but a Master of himself. What allows an Alpha to command, and attracts fags to him, is his presence and ability. This does not always result in bodies that could be on nude calendars. He may be overweight, or lacking the model looks, but he should show he is in control of himself.
Alphas want to attract sex and service. This does not happen if no one can be in the room with them. The Alpha may be sweaty from working out, or grungy from the job he has, but that is all the dust on crystal. He is all man under that. Doing what men do.
There is a significant difference between what happens as a result of job, activity, and genetics, and someone not having self-control. I know there is a kink for smells and dirt, and if the fag is into it, that’s fine. But an Alpha decides how he will take care of himself while the fag is responsible for the Alpha’s environment. I’ll take a shower, you mop the floors.
If someone claims to be an Alpha, and is unable to keep a job, can’t maintain a suitable living environment for himself, that means he does not have a handle on himself, and is not in a position to own a fag. The fag is the servant to make an Alpha’s life better, not a substitute for the Alpha’s own flaws.
How many of the stories here talk about a fag coming to clean and the place is OK, but not pristine? The Alpha does what is necessary, but wants a fag to do the hard work. It’s not a question of ability, but of time and desire to do it.
Alphas do not need fags to succeed or live life, fags make an Alpha’s life better.
Longtime readers of this site will remember Sir Max, the Alpha writer who examines Hierarchy from the Alpha perspective. He’s like the Yin to my Yang, if you will. I’ve always appreciated his advice and little bits of wisdom he often sprinkles around on this site.
He is working on an article about the faggot need for domestic service. As you all know, I adore domestic service. I think it rivals sexual service in terms of emotional satisfaction.
He wanted me to ask my readership for their opinions on this subject. Below are his questions:
What draws you to domestic service?
How do you feel providing domestic service? Useful, humiliated, happy to be of assistance? Something else?
Do you look forward to your time service? Are you satisfied afterwards?
How do you locate men to provide domestic service for?
Do the men you serve want you naked or in some uniform? Do others observe/Interact?
What chores are you typically assigned?
Is there a sexual component to your domestic service? Do you wish there was or was not?
Do you seek or search for straight, gay, or bi men to serve? Why?
If you’d like to make your opinions a part of his study, fill these out and send your answers to him at maxrpotter@gmail.com or below in the comments.
