Questions From Readers
It’s just not fair! I don’t want to be a faggot bitch boy! I want to be a real Alpha Man! I won\’t submit! I won’t suck cock! I won’t be cunted! I won’t cage my pp!
Okay, calm down. Yikes.
First of all, you might not be a faggot.
Yours is a fairly common reaction when we suspect we might be a faggot. But here’s the problem with your stance: it’s inescapable. You can try to run away and hide from you, but it will return and consume you, again and again, I’m not trying to scare you … just trying to warn you.
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One might also be a submissive gay guy, who enjoys serving alpha males, but is not in fact a “faggot” in the sense of identity. I’d say that’s where I land. I’m a submissive gay man, quite happy to serve and service alpha males both straight and gay, sexually or not. I like bringing them pleasure more than I like receiving pleasure of my own. But in my day-to-day life, I’m ambitious, driven, and a leader. Most people regard me as an alpha male outside of my private sexual life. I have no problem reconciling that. We’re not wolves: we’re humans, and we’re a lot more complex than an overly simplified concept of hierarchy can convey.
Also, even if we were wolves, we wouldn’t have “alpha males.” That’s based on a misunderstanding of lupine behavior.
Regardless, I see value in the idea of the alpha/fag dynamic. If nothing else, it is a useful shorthand. I’ll serve an alpha of my choice in the way I choose to bring him pleasure. But I won’t just say “I have no limits, do with me what you will” like some sort of gay version of the Story of O. Nor will I ever put up with rape or abuse.
I think it was the Persian poet Rumi who said “there are a thousand ways to kneel and kiss the ground.”
Finally a voice of reason from someone on this site. Thumbs up.
I’m more or less where Peter is. I’m sexually submissive. But no abuse. No rape. No findom. And I’ll give only the domestic help I’d lend anyone else out of courtesy as a houseguest, etc.
I had an ongoing set-up with a guy (before Covid) where I was always submissive sexually but we were also buddies and neither of us dominate outside the bedroom. Sometimes he’d try to be dominate outside but I’d never give in then. In fact, at times, I’d be the dominate one. I think that actually made him more aggressive in the bedroom, where he knew he’d eventually win.
Well thank goodness for some sane comments.
I’m a 100% sexually dominant man and love it. To be an actual man is about a lot more than being a male of any other species. We’ve got the most highly developed brains of all animals, and a high degree of consciousness with depths and dimensions of awareness way more than other mammals. Humans are distinct and different. Seems to me that this fantasy philosophy of ‘Heirarchy’ is based on a simple zoological model of humans – a mistake.
I see true manliness as using our brains as well as our balls. I think it’s retarded to rape.
Sexual submissives who are attracted to men don’t need males; they need men to grow up and stand up, men who then have the right to fuck and who take the responsibility for all that that entails.
All this other stuff about exploiting and bullying weaker males is nothing but WEAKNESS, the antithesis of manliness.
Agreed 💯 Sir! Thank you!
Such a hypocrite. Your answer differed when one of the submissive men said virtually the same things.