Questions From Readers
How come fathers have a harder time than mothers when it comes to accepting their gay children?
I think fathers take the homosexuality of their children personally, as if it is an affront to their Masculinity. Women (who are not blinded by religious bigotry) tend to be more empathetic toward the fear and insecurities of their gay children. Men are more clinical emotionally, and tend to view their children’s accomplishments and failures as reflections of their own name, respect, and prestige.
Don’t take me the wrong way – Men can make excellent parents. But they do have this outer shell around their emotions that sometimes involuntarily goes up when confronted by things they don’t readily understand. Homosexuality is often one of those triggers.