My whole life Ive been attracted to guys but forced myself to have sex with girls only. Now that I’m 40 I’ve finally decided to do it with a guy (my ultimate sexual fantasy). My question is, is it too late? Is 40 considered too old for gay guys? I intend to go to a local gay bar, is it the best venue for one night stands?

Congratulations on this big step, Sir!

No, 40 is not too old. There is an entire subset of younger gay males who are specifically attracted to Men your age (you’re a “Daddy”). As for finding males for sex, you can certainly get laid by going to gay bars or clubs. 

I hope you have a gay friend who can help you begin this journey out into these new waters! Regardless, this is your time to shine, Sir! Go grab hold of your true life!