How do I exert authority over my fag and at the same time treat it kindly?

Thank you, Sir!

Asserting authority has nothing to do with being mean, Sir. It is better described as “firmness.” Some of the most powerful authority figures are the strong, silent types who guide their underlings with just a look or a gesture. 

Authority is a stillness of the soul. It is confidence. It is saying what you mean, and meaning what you say.  Let this faggot see this part of you, Sir, and it will serve you anywhere you go. And when that happens, kindness toward it will come naturally.

Thank you for this thoughtful question, Sir!