When my son was 7 he asked me if I’d still love him if he was gay. I told him of course I would. Now he’s 14 and yesterday he said he couldn’t understand why boys would stroke their dicks. He’d find it disgusting, but maybe it was because his cock was so small. I said maybe it’s because you are still too young and he said maybe so. He’s a very sensitive boy, a little introverted. He’s got no interest in girls so far, his best friend is a quiet boy. Do you think he could think he could be gay?

Yes, I definitely think your son is gay. He sounds pretty submissive, too.

Given the pervasiveness of the Internet now, I wouldn’t be surprised if your son has been looking at sites like mine and examining this issue in light of his own feelings. I say that because his comment about disliking masturbation; that’s something I regularly preach here.

I’m sure you feel a little panicky about this possibility. Don’t worry. It sounds like your son is intelligent and thoughtful. He’s not going to be stupid about what he does.

On the other hand, he needs to experience his truth, and that requires space and trust from you. It’s great that he’s comfortable enough with you to share intimate information! Keep that trust strong as he continues to grow.

If he is what I think he might be, he’s going to need some understanding from you.

This is a natural process we all go through. He will survive it, and come out stronger and hopefully more fulfilled in his life!